Transmute Sexual Energy for Self Healing and Growth
A Pointing to Turn you On
I’ve been thinking a lot about sexual energy lately and how to transmute sexual energy to self heal and grow.
I actually recently published my third poetry book about it, ‘Healing: Cum and Dance’ (get your copy here)!
We all go through hard, scary times in life. Healing can be painful. But cultivating pleasure and sensuality through the healing process adds a flavor and nuance that fills rather than takes.
I went through a dark night of the soul last summer, fall, and early winter. As I moved through it and out of it, I’ve intuitively known healing with and through sexual energy would be next. Somatic healing with my body and sexual healing with my soul have been heavy on my mind as we inch towards a seasonal transition once again.
So, to help both me and you (we get what we want when we give it away) with these tools and practices, this blog post covers how:
sexual energy is the most potent energy of life
to channel this energy through preserving and redirecting it
to channel this energy through releasing and channeling it
pleasure is my [our] birthright 😉
Transmute Sexual Energy as Creative LifeForce
I’ve learned about sexual energy through studying yoga, ayurveda, tantra, taoism, witchcraft, and even christianity. It’s everywhere.
Sex might just be one of the most contentious topics on the planet. But that’s probably because it’s the most universal. It’s also the most potent, and the most divine. Sex takes us right to Source.
Sexual drive, exchange, and manifestation is literally everywhere, in everything. From pollination to reproduction to painting- in any form of creation, sex is present. Sex is the center of all life.
Sex can change the world. It does change the world– whether it’s done intentionally or mindlessly. The choice is always ours.
This energy– the life force– of sex has the power to both create and destroy. What goes up must cum down, right (pun fully intended)?
It hurts my heart to write that unfortunately, we’ve all probably seen the shadow side of this potent energy– destruction, abuse of power, sexual violence, objectification and dehumanization. Sex can (and does) destroy.
The relative side of this powerful force, however, is an energy stronger than anything else that exists in our world. And if you know how to transmute sexual energy, how to channel and engage this energy with full intention and purpose, the sky really is the limit.
Ways to Channel Sexual Energy
There are many techniques to transmute sexual energy. But there are really two many ways to work with the energy:
1. Preserve and redirect it
2. Release and channel it
Preserve & Redirect
Preserve & Redirect means keeping the energy inside your physical body. It’s about alchemizing (turning it into something else) the sexual, creative life force into fuel to energize something that you will create.
One example of how to transmute sexual energy through preserving and redirecting is semen retention. For people with a penis, many schools of thought teach (spiritual and scientific) that orgasm is not the same as ejaculation, and the two can be separated (with lots of practice and patience). Many believe that retaining semen (for those with a penis) means retaining vital life force, or prana.
The benefits look like: enhanced energy, more stamina, more magnetism (others are more attracted to you), more focus, more drive, just overall more umph.
With sexual transmutation, this umph can be redirected towards a goal– want to ace a test, land a presentation, win the game, do the thing? Transmute, my brothers, transmute.
For those with a yoni, this practice might not include retaining semen, but rather, retaining the sexual energy built up with anticipating orgasm, or edging.
Edging is when you build sexual arousal, allowing it to peak close to orgasm. But before reaching climax, you stop and redirect the energy. (Obviously, this practice can be used with people of any genitalia).
Remember to Breathe
Breath work is key to this practice, as is body awareness. A good place to start is focusing on the energy you feel in the body during self pleasure (this can be done with a partner, but I recommend practicing solo first to get more acquainted with how sexual energy moves around and through your physical body).
Focus on breathing as you notice sexual sensation ignite in the body through self pleasure. As you notice your energy climbing up, close to climax, use the breath to settle and disperse the energy throughout your physical body.
There are many different ways you can transmute sexual energy internally. The purpose is to keep the energy within the body so that the physical body has enhanced capabilities with this energy. By working up sexual energy and then transmuting it to stay within your physical body, you’re essentially charging your Ka, or Qi (as taught in Chinese medicine).
The second method of transmutation entails releasing the energy (yay, you get to cum!), but doing so with an intentional, visualized purpose.
Release and Channel
Orgasm is a portal to source, to oneness, to the divine. It’s a blip experience (or longer if you’ve gotten there) where neurons and chemicals and reactions are ripping through your bodies (physical and energetic) and you’re filled to the brim with unadulterated bliss.
And it’s really fucking powerful. That energy is the catalyst for creation. That explosion, if you will, is the stuff of life (literally and figuratively, also pun intended, again hehe).
The energy of orgasm can be transmuted to fuel the manifestation of all your desires. It can heal you.
To do this, you must master the practice of visualization. This is a meditation technique. If you’re new to the practice of visualization, start with these five steps.
In order to transmute the energy of your orgasm into opportunity, you must already have experience and a developed practice working with your breath, with the movement and directing of sexual energy within your body, and as mentioned above, with visualization. In other words, you need to be practicing meditation.
Once all that is set in motion, here’s how transmutation works:
How to turn Orgasm into Opportunity
1. Decide what you want. This can literally be anything (but it must be something that can only be created by/through you– a secret to manifestation is that you can never control another). Want to paint a mural? Run a marathon? Build a business? Heal a disease you have? Transmute it.
2. Get sexual. Immerse in pleasure. Raise the energy (this can be solo or with a partner– if it’s with a partner, I recommend talking with them about it beforehand so they know you’re engaging in an alchemic practice while being intimate with them).
3. Once you feel the energy within you close to peaking, bring your desire (the thing you decided you wanted in step 1) to your mind’s eye. Focus on it. Visualize it. See it and feel it (another tip for manifestation is feeling the thing you want as if it’s already yours).
4. Cum. Yes, cum. Orgasm. Do the thing. Release. Surrender, let go. Let yourself be lost. But, this is where it gets tricky– step outside of yourself and contain the flow of that energy that’s released with your orgasm, and redirect it to your desire. Visualize a river of energy that releases from you with your orgasm. Direct the flow of this river to the thing that you want.
Transmuting to Heal
The purpose of this technique is to transmute the powerful, potent energy of orgasm to manifest your desire. It’s as if you’re giving the universe/god (yourself, really), extra energy (that umph) to make the thing you want to happen, happen.
Lately I’ve been transmuting the energy of orgasm into clearing and healing my chakras. It’s been a fun and eye-opening practice for me. I started it months ago, once or twice during solo pleasure. I’d pick a chakra that I needed to cleanse/charge– my throat chakra for example, because of all the new writing I’ve been getting into– so I would imagine the color blue and transmute my energy to that chakra for healing and rejuvenation.
Over time, this practice evolved, naturally. Our bodies are intelligent. And our souls are part of our bodies (in this 3rd dimension place of Earth we all exist in). Eventually, I started to let my body show me which chakras the energy needed to direct to. So I would do my thing, and when I’d get close I would open my third eye to allow any color/chakra to emerge that needed the healing. Sometimes I would see yellow (solar plexus), or green (heart), or red (root).
The Differences
It’s important to understand the release and channel method is different than the retain and redirect method in two main ways:
1. In keeping the energy internal versus external. If you retain and redirect it, you’re transmuting the energy to charge your own life force so that you can have that umph to accomplish or achieve. If you release and channel the energy, you release it as an external energy and direct/channel it to manifest something external (to bring something to you). By releasing and redirecting the energy, you’re allowing/inviting it to interplay with the external world. (Side note: you can release it and channel it back into your physical body like I do with the chakra healing, the benefit of this brings us to #2, the potency).
2. The potency of the energy. Releasing and channeling is stronger because you bring yourself in the full height of the energy through orgasm. When you retain and redirect, you get very close to that place, but you don’t quite charge it to completion (I’m totally with it on these puns today).
Final Thoughts (Before you Play)
This energy is strong. Yogic philosophy teaches us to not mess around with “awakening kundalini” (what yogis call this potent sexual energy) until we’re ready. Witchcraft conveys the same caution– be careful with sex magic.
Yet, what I’ve come to learn through my own experiences working with this energy is that you will just know when you’re there. You’ll know when it’s right. I think in order to even be capable of consciously working with this energy, you must have some basics in place first (like what I said earlier about meditation and breath work).
You can’t just jump right in if you don’t know what you’re doing, if you don’t have the other building blocks in place first. So, don’t fear it. As with all yummy sexy time, take your time. Go slow. Be present.
Do it with intention.